Well readers, I’ve done it again. I am writing about marriage, thanks to the Pre-Marital and Marital Counseling class that I am currently taking. This post is inspired by a homework assignment I had this week…
This picture was taken RIGHT after Michael asked me to marry him!!!
God designed male and female, and created each individually. God speaks a lot about how he designed male and female for marriage in Genesis, and we also see how sin twisted God’s design. Genesis 2:26-28 shows God creating mankind. He formed mankind in his own image, male and female. Instead of creating man like he had with the animals, he formed man and woman.(Matthew Henry Commentary) God brought male and female together, and gave them the earth to rule over, and told them to multiply. God had created man from the dust of the earth, but he created the woman out of a rib from the man. Woman wasn’t created from Adam’s foot, to be trampled on, but she was created out of Adam’s rib, to be next to him, side by side. God saw that it was not good for man to be alone, so he created the woman, to be a helper.
When a man and woman come together in marriage, they are one flesh. (Genesis 2:24) The man is to lead in the relationship, and work hard to provide. The woman is to be a helper to her husband. This is God’s plan and design, but when Eve disobeyed God, and sin entered the relationship, the marriage relationship changed. Because of sin, there is “enmity between man and woman” and the woman’s “desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you.” (Genesis 3:15-16) This scripture shows that there will be difficulty on accepting the God-designed roles for man and woman because of sin. Couples need to understand the design for man and woman that is given by God, and outlined in scripture. Our culture does not follow God’s design of roles very well, but living according to God’s plan is the best way to live.
The roles of men and women in a Christian marriage are clear, for God gives clear direction to the husband, in Ephesians 5:25-27, to love his wife sacrificially. Ephesians 5 gives understanding that a husband is not to take advantage of his wife, but to love her, cherish her, and meet her needs, this means physically, emotionally, and lead spiritually. This fact alone, give much responsibility to a husband, but wives are also given the direction to not only submit to their husband’s authority, but also to meet her husbands needs and to be his helper. Understanding these God-given roles, and understanding each other’s needs in marriage will help the marriage to be successful.
Just like Satan attacked the first married couple, Adam and Eve, he is attacking every marriage that is in existence today. Scripture says in 1 Peter 5:8 that “Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.” (NIV). Married couples need to realize that they have an enemy that is attacking their marriage. Just like an army won’t win a war by passively sitting around hoping for the best, a married couple will not have a successful, healthy marriage if both parties are sitting back and hoping the marriage lasts. It is at times a battle, and couples need to actively fight for a healthy marriage, and work toward growing in love and servant hood every day.
The first thing we did as a married couple at our wedding: Prayed
I pray that I remember that every day, and I never take for granted the blessing that God has given me in my husband. It is because of God’s grace that we love each other more today than we did when we first began dating six and a half years ago, and when we got married two years ago. J My husband is such a strong spiritual leader, and a servant leader. He inspires and challenges me every day.
Matthew Henry, Matthew Henry’s Commentary, Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan Publishing, 2000.
The Bible, New International Version. 2011